There are days when we have so many questions about what God has allowed in our lives.
So, go ahead and ask them!
God's big enough to allow you to question Him. He is not afraid of your doubts.
He knows that we will suffer in this life, and wants us to cry out to Him as our Father:
For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.
The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God:
And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together.
For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.
There is a time and place when we will know the answers to all the "whys" of this life. In that day, the glory we have gained by these sufferings will be revealed.
I know that doesn't help our pain today, but it is a truth to hold on to when nothing else makes sense.