3.5 Steps to Keep the DOJ out of My Son’s Healthcare

This story – "Justice Department Sues Florida Over Disabled Kids in Nursing Homes" – makes me a little crazy.  So I'm going to vent a bit. 

I will be the first one to agree that Florida does a poor job of taking care of disabled kids that have been on the waiting list for services for YEARS.  Isaac has been on the list since 2004, and we've received bed pads, a therapy wedge and a small metal ramp…in NINE years' time!  AND he was a ward of the state before we adopted him, so by all rights, he should have been on the list AT BIRTH.

However, we HAVE been able to keep him at home.  We know that God gave him to US to raise and by allowing him to be placed in a nursing home, we are turning our backs on our responsibility. 

That being said, what happens if we become physically unable to care for him???  The state would rather put him in a nursing home with poor therapy resources and no social interaction with family and peers, rather than provide in-home nursing.  That is just wrong.

BUT should the FEDERAL government get involved with what happens to Florida's disabled children???  I say, "Absolutely not!" 

They cannot adequately fund their own programs and do an extremely poor job of regulating the people who are involved in those programs.  I do not believe that they will do a better job than our state has done, nor do I believe that they will solve the issues. 

We are told that the waiting list is 12-15 years long now.  That means that Isaac *might* receive some help in the year 2016…IF there are any monies available by then.  That sounds extremely unlikely, doesn't it???

The first step to a solution of this issue is to elect government officials who will do the right things for these children.  By "right things", I do NOT mean that they should provide in-home, around-the-clock nursing for all of these children.  Nor do I think they should modify entire houses, nor provide 100% of the funding for vehicles and modifications.  Each case should be handled with honesty and diligence, doing only what is necessary for the health and well-being of the child and the caregiver.

The second step is for parents to be honest about their needs.  It is not my RIGHT to receive help for Isaac.  I do not expect the government to care for my child.  I will do ALL I can, I will ask my family and my church for help, I will apply for grants and fill out requests for wish programs, and then I will be honest and let the state know what else I need.

The problem is that for years, parents were greedy and accepted more help that they actually needed, draining the state's financial coffers, because they felt that the government owed them these things.  It does not.  And if I take more than I actually need for Isaac, then some other child will not get all that they need.

The third step – and I think this is perhaps THE most important one – is to get RID of all of the paper-pushers.  There are SO many people, on the payroll of the state of Florida, who stand between Isaac and the political decision-makers.  These people are paid a ridiculous amount of money to fill out paperwork.  Some of them sit in an office all day, every day, and do nothing.  They receive full medical and dental benefits and paid vacations to handle papers or to type on a keyboard.

They might speak to me once a year.  Most years, I am the one who has to make that phone call.  These people need to be culled.  There are too many of them.  Keep the ones who are working their tails off, the ones who are already so busy they can never get it all done.  Keep the diligent, caring people who do the work, talk to the clients, make the work look easy.  They are the ones keeping the system working.  They need help, but they don't need it from the desk-jockeys who are just trying to hang on for their full retirement plan to go into effect.

The .5 step is to avoid adding an additional phalanx of federal government workers to these ranks.  More bureaucracy is not the answer to this problem.

I realize that society as a whole will not return to moral standards of right and wrong…ever.  That does not release me from the responsibility to do right!  I must vote my conscience, try to help elect leaders who are morally and fiscally responsible, and give honest answers to the state workers who ask what we need to make Isaac's life safe and as "normal" as possible.

Florida has got to get back on the right track of doing only what is necessary, and of using responsibly the monies available for these children.  We need strong leadership in this state, from the governor's office in Tallahassee, on down to the social workers in each county.

I would never want Isaac to live in a nursing home.  But I also would not want Washington D.C. in charge of my child's medical welfare.  More government is never the answer, and in this case, I believe it would be foolish and ultimately disastrous for the disabled children of the state of Florida.

Trying to Catch Up

We've had a quiet couple of weeks here at our house.  Ike's caregiver was on vacation one week, then she took some days off for the 4th of July. 

We've been getting lots of rain here, along with our mid-90* weather.  The rain does help the mercury to stand still and stop climbing for a little while each day.

I think the crepe myrtles must really love the rain.  They are all in bloom all over town.

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Our summer skies are really breath-taking here in Florida.  I know other places have beautiful skies too; but I am quite particular to ours.

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I know Kepler doesn't get outside as much as she would like.  I think she was trying to tell me she needed a little more vitamin D when she positioned her head to bask in this puddle of sunshine.

Kepsun

Doug is still planting seeds and harvesting a few veggies here and
there.  Nothing has produced like we expected it to, so for this next
round of seeds he will be using a special fertilizer for each bucket.  Yep,
we have a garbage can full of cow manure in our back yard. ;) 

I like to call this new addition to our garden "Bowl-o-Cilantro". (You can click to make the pictures bigger.)

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Now…I'm a little hesitant to tell you this, because I'm afraid I might get fussed at; but that bowl?  Yeah…it's Tupperwear.  And yeah, it does have drainage holes now.  Is that like really wrong?  I'm telling you, I just could not resist doing it.  How amazing does that cilantro look in that bowl???

The trick is to cut from a small quadrant of the full bowl when you need cilantro, then rotate and clip the next quadrant the next time you need it.  That way it will continue growing in the bowl all the time.  I am looking forward to some yummy dishes this summer!

We are still doing ok, financially.  We did have to dip into the money we were saving for Doug's surgery during last week, as he didn't tutor.  (The boys spent the week at church camp.)  We received a $300 check in the mail, just in time to pay our utilities bills this week.  We also received a HUGE check towards Doug's surgery.  He will be calling today to set up his surgery date.  He is a little nervous about that, as he's never had surgery before; but I know the Lord is going to see him through it with no complications.

By the way, we are still continuing to try to stay on our diet.  I say "trying" because we got waylaid a little bit by the 4th of July.  When you step out the door and smell barbecue grills cooking, it sets up a domino effect!  We did have burgers…and then cupcakes, and then we struggled all weekend.  However, on Monday, we got back on track and are doing well now.  According to my doctor's scales, I am still the same weight I was this past February.  Eh…  And Doug, of course, has lost in the neighborhood of 30 pounds already.  Yeah…I know.  I want to just poke him in the eye, too! 😉

I leave you with a close up of Poppet.  Doug was cleaning her cage this week and so I was spending a little one-on-one time with her.  Then she bit my ear.  And went right back into her cage!!!  But she looks really cute here.

Poppet

That's all for today!

Talk to you again soon,

Alesha

 

How to Share with your Friends

Well, I'm going to show you how to share PLANTS with your friends, anyway!  You really ought to know by now how to share other stuff with your friends. 😉

I think I'm going to be known as "The Mint Lady" soon.  I now have spearmint, sweet mint, chocolate mint and lavender mint growing in my kitchen.  We love the smells of each of them, and I've enjoyed sharing them with my family and friends.

Just in case you've ever wondered how to "root" a piece of leafy plant like mint or ivy, this is the way my Mama has done it for years.

You cut off a sprig of the plant you want to "clone".  You tuck it into a container of water.  Keep it filled.  Put it in a sunny place, if you'd like.  Eventually, you'll begin to see small root forming; and you will begin to see additional growth at the top of your plant.

Here is a bit of lavender mint that my friend passed on to me.  This was after it had been in the water about a week.

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Here it is about a week later:

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And here it is this week:

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It is truly amazing to watch.

Some plant take longer than
others.  I had tiny sprigs of ivy that did nothing for months, then
suddenly began to root and grow like crazy.  I transplanted them to a
large pot and planted them in good potting soil, and now, it is a happy,
happy plant.

I plan to move this lavender mint to a pretty little pot very soon…when we have extra money for potting soil. 😉

By the way, I was able to pay all the bills through this end of this month today.  I also sold a set of books today.  Yay! 

Doug doesn't work the week of the 4th, so it will be interesting to see how God provides for the bills of next month!

Hoping you have a great weekend,

Alesha

Chicken, Corn and Canteloupe

We had a good weekend, even though I was stuck at home with back pain.  Doug and Ike both made it to church and enjoyed their day together.  We splurged on our diet, because it was Father's Day.  Doug wanted fried chicken, so that is what we had. 😉

I had been shopping for bedsheets, and I mentioned on FB how confusing that whole process could be.  I did try to glean as much advice as I could before doing some online shopping.  However, something even better came along.  My friend was out shopping, came across sheets on clearance, and snapped up a set for me (regularly priced at $170!!!) for under $50!  I told her she was hired as my new personal assistant for sure!

I ended up with Martha Stewart sheets.  They are Egyptian cotton, and a 500 threadcount.  So far we are loving them.  They remind me of sleeping at my grandma's house.  Her sheets were also so crisp and smelled so wonderful! :)  Good memories.

Today I posted some books and jewelry on online yard sale groups on FB.  We'll see what comes of that, if anything.  Tomorrow, we are going to meet a lady that listed a skirt and sweater set for $10 in my sizes.  I hope it all fits, but if it doesn't, it will be good motivation to not have many "splurge" days, won't it?

My dad blessed us with some produce on Saturday.  He and Mama halved a bushel of corn with us and gave us a canteloupe too.  It was honestly one of the best-tasting cantaloupes I have ever had in my life!  Sugar-sweet. 

I tried to recreate my Mexican rice and refried beans recipe yesterday, so that I could take pictures and share it with you.  It was an EPIC FAIL. :(  The rice wouldn't cook, the beans were still crunchy, everything kept sticking.  Ugh!   So disappointing!  BUT, I do intend to try it again.  I will not let it conquer me.

I guess that's all that's happened since I blogged last.  These are turning into weekly posts, rather than daily; but I suppose that's ok.  No publishing companies beating down the door yet, anyway! Tee hee hee.

Until the next time,

Alesha

A Profitable Week

Wednesday night, I came home from church, and my hubby had these yummy roasted potatoes ready.

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They were so delicious!  There was, however, just one catch:  he included crushed red pepper flakes in his seasonings.  They were so hot I could barely eat them!!!

So, we are planning to do them again, minus the atomic seasonings.

We picked our first cucumbers today!  So exciting! 

Cukes

The long one is a Straight Eight and the short one is a pickling cucumber.  We also picked our first jalapeno pepper this week, and used it to make some delicious Mexican rice and refried beans.  Oh so yummy!!!

My gardenia is out-doing herself this year. 

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This is her 5th blossom, I think, and she has 2 others as well.  She has never bloomed very much, so I am enjoying these gorgeous blooms so much.

Our tax return was finally approved and deposited.  It only took over 60 days!  Three times as long as they say it will take.  I'm thinking it was some glitch in the e-filing; but at least it was corrected eventually.

My sweet mother-in-law sent me a box of books this week. 

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Does she know my language of love, or what?!  The exciting thing is that I can share them with my friends, too.  So fun.

Our church is doing something special for Father's Day this year.  They put up several bulletin boards in the back of the church, and everybody is bringing in pictures of their dads to put up.  It's been so fun to see the really old pictures of our church members, and the way they resemble their dads (or not!).

So, of course, we had to get a picture of Isaac's Daddy for the display.  We shot this on Wednesday afternoon, and were able to get it printed off and posted in the auditorium.  I really love it!

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Well, it's been a good week.  I was able to order some supplements I needed today, thanks to that tax return.  I will also be able to buy some new bedsheets, which we are in desperate need of.  I'll let you know what kind of deal I find on those!

Praying you have a profitable weekend (by spending time in the Lord's House!),

Alesha

 

Busy Weekend

We are already reaping a few benefits of our new diet.  One of them is a small increase in energy.  Saturday morning, Doug and I spent 6 1/2 hours cleaning out our front porch.  We were brutal with our sorting.  If we didn't love it or use it, we pitched it out or gave it away.

The first load of giveaways was picked up by two older gentlemen in a pickup truck.  They took everything we sat out by the road!  They were comical, and reminded me of the guys on those tv shows that hoard everything for years, then one day make it big. 🙂

The second load of giveaways rode with us to church on Sunday, and we shared them with friends who could use them.  Most of that load was boy's clothes.  Isaac has always been so blessed with nice clothes from family and friends.  I'm so glad to see a few of the things passed along to others. 

My renewed energy also got me through Sunday and Monday, which were both filled with unusual demands.  I sang twice on Sunday, which requires an *amazing* amount of energy.  Praise the Lord, both songs were a blessing to others.

Monday, we said goodbye to a member of our extended family.  We attended her funeral services, then prepared food and attended a family meal in her honor.  It was a good time of fellowship and remembering; and the most thrilling thing is that we know we will see Mrs. Marge again in Heaven one day.  Just a little while back, at the age of 91, she accepted Jesus as her personal Saviour.  It was an amazing answer to prayer and such a joy to see the peace of the Lord come over her personality and countenance when she came to know the Prince of Peace.

Today has been a quiet day, just the 3 of us at home, chilling out after our very busy weekend.  I'm so thankful for the quiet days, too.

We were blessed by someone purchasing a few supplements for us today.  I like to use Arnica as a natural pain reliever, rather than Tylenol, Advil or Aleve.  It does a good job to relieve pain and it has no side effects.  So it will be nice to have a bottle of that in the house again. 😉

By the way, we are still eating well.  We still have a little gas in the car.  We are doing well and have need of nothing.

But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. ~Philippians 4:19

Enjoying the blessings,

Alesha

 

Give to Get

So…somebody dropped off a box of food at our house.

I know! We were surprised, humbled and grateful.

It had 18 different things in it – from frozen chicken breasts to blueberry muffin mix.

Our God is just amazing, isn't He?!!

 

Then, we were faced with a quandry.  We are committed to sticking to our new diet plan this summer.  Several things in the box were things that are not on our list of things we can eat.  Should we eat them anyway?  After all, the Lord pretty much did the grocery shopping for us on this one!

We thought for just a bit, pulled out the things we could eat (several packages of frozen veggies!), and then sent the rest of the box on to someone else who needed it.

So we were blessed.  And then we got to bless someone else!!!

It is hard to beat the feelings of gratitude that well up in our hearts at times like this.

 

Interestingly enough, I had planned to blog about giving today.  You see, one of the ways that we are saving and stretching our money is to give some of it away.  I know it sounds crazy, but it is an amazing principle that works on so many levels.

Even the world is learning how this Scriptural principle works.  The wealthiest people in our country are often spotlighted for their charitable giving.  They have stumbled onto the truth that when we give, we are blessed.

So each week that Doug works, we will be giving a portion of our income to the charity of our choice, our local church.  We will also be giving a small weekly gift to the missions project in our church.  Then monthly, we give a very small gift to support our favorite Christian radio station, Gospel 90.3, which is also a ministry of our church.

And…just in case you are wondering, we do not give to our church because our pastors harp about needing money week after week.  They don't.  We give to our local church for two reasons:

  • We know how our money is being used because we are right here.  We see the ministry.
  • We are practicing a Biblical principle that will bless our home and family far beyond the dollars that leave our bank account.

"Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together,
and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same
measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again." ~Luke 6:38

 

Giving some of the blessings away,

Alesha