Encouragement from an Unlikely Source

I was changing Isaac today, getting him a dry diaper and clean clothes (and if you need to know why I am helping my 14-year-old son do these things, you can read his story here).

I was saying the usual things I say to him as I go through our routine.  On most days it's a running one-sided dialogue:

 

"Alright, here we go!
"Wet pants off. Wash, wash….ooooo, it's cold.  Brrrrrr. 
"Ok.  Rolly-Olly, dry diaper on.  Rolly back.
"Don't pinch Mommy!  No!  Ouch!  Stop it, Isaac! 

"Here, this foot in.  Other foot.  Now rolly again.  Pants up.  
"Are you ready to change your shirt?  This arm out first, good job, over the head now.  Whoop!  And the other arm.  All right!"

 

And then from the living room I heard our African Gray parrot, Poppet, talking.

"Very nice.  Very niiiiiiiice.
"Good job, Isaac!  Good joooooob!
"Here we go!  Here we go!
"Verrry nice!  Good work!

It's nice to know that I've said the right things often enough that the bird has memorized them. 

I've been encouraging in the past.  I've sounded sweet and kind to Isaac many times.  I've talked him through dressing and eating and therapy many, many times.

So, on that one day when I feel like a failure, when I know *for a fact* that I'm the world's worst mom, I'm going to remember the day I was encouraged by the bird – a bird who only learned the things that it heard.

Do you have a bird who talks?  If you did, what kinds of things would it be learning to say???

Amazed at His Goodness

The month of July just seemed to f-l-y by so quickly and then August started with a bang.  I could try to tell you every little thing, but, as Inigo Montoya says in Princess Bride, "No, there is too much. Let me sum up."

Doug had his hernia surgery on July 25th.  He is doing well.  He had a 2nd post-op appointment yesterday, and the doctor was pleased with his surgery site.  He has been on antibiotic for 10 days, due to a suspected infection, but it is looking well now.  He has to go back one more time, and then after 3 weeks, he will be free to lift more than 20 pounds, which is his limit right now.

The day after Doug's surgery, my dad had a heart attack and was in the hospital for a week.  He has been told that he needs open heart surgery – a triple or quadruple bypass.  But Daddy has never been one to do exactly as the doctors say, (and I am glad of that), and he is now home and considering his options.  I just hope he doesn't wait too long considering, or that he doesn't at least try to take care of himself while he is mulling things over.

Our caregiver has been a true God-send during these last couple weeks.  I don't know what I would have done without her, especially last week.  She was here for 25 hours, and that freed me up to be at the doctor with Doug and the hospital with Daddy.

Isaac is doing well.  He had his yearly MRI on his shunt.  Everything looked good, and they re-adjusted his shunt afterwards and he has had no problems.  He really loves having me in his room so much, now that I do all his diaper/clothes/bedding changes after the caregiver leaves at 2 p.m, and every evening and weekend.  I did all of his feeds for about a week, too, until Doug was able to start them again.

I've also been doing lots of disciplining and correcting with Isaac.  He is so incredibly – freakishly – strong now; and he has always been a pincher.  Well, now his "pinching" is more like "crushing", and his man-sized fingers and fingernails just peeeeeel the skin right off my arms.  I have been sporting lots of bruises and scratches these past 2 weeks. 

So, we've been working on that.  It is not easy.  He does not always understand.  Sometimes, he does understand, but he just doesn't care; and sometimes, he understands, but he just wants to do what he wants to do and he will not be deterred.  For the most part, though, he does understand pain and pleasure, and he also learns by repetition.  Thankfully, I enjoy the sound of my own voice and have no trouble repeating myself, ad naseum.

Financially, we are still doing ok.  Early in the month of July, the same sweet people dropped off another box of food for us.  We shared some of it with my family, but were able to use a lot of it.  We are so, so grateful for their ministering to our family this summer.

Both mine and Doug's parents gave very generously to help us pay for Doug's surgery.  The week before the surgery, the price went up by over $700, and after the surgery, we received another bill for $200 more.  It is truly beyond me why they can't just tell you the correct amount of money needed the first time you call.  They do this all the time…you'd think they could/would get it right!

As far as our budget goes, we have had only one bill that was late; but just this week, we received an unexpected check in the mail, and we were able to get it paid before it was 10 days overdue.

Doug goes back to work next Monday.  It's hard to believe that the summer is over!  God has been so, SO good to us!  I stand back and am amazed at the ways He has met our every need, and even a few of our "wants", as well.

He is a faithful, loving, generous God, and I am so thankful to be His child.

Alesha

 

3.5 Steps to Keep the DOJ out of My Son’s Healthcare

This story – "Justice Department Sues Florida Over Disabled Kids in Nursing Homes" – makes me a little crazy.  So I'm going to vent a bit. 

I will be the first one to agree that Florida does a poor job of taking care of disabled kids that have been on the waiting list for services for YEARS.  Isaac has been on the list since 2004, and we've received bed pads, a therapy wedge and a small metal ramp…in NINE years' time!  AND he was a ward of the state before we adopted him, so by all rights, he should have been on the list AT BIRTH.

However, we HAVE been able to keep him at home.  We know that God gave him to US to raise and by allowing him to be placed in a nursing home, we are turning our backs on our responsibility. 

That being said, what happens if we become physically unable to care for him???  The state would rather put him in a nursing home with poor therapy resources and no social interaction with family and peers, rather than provide in-home nursing.  That is just wrong.

BUT should the FEDERAL government get involved with what happens to Florida's disabled children???  I say, "Absolutely not!" 

They cannot adequately fund their own programs and do an extremely poor job of regulating the people who are involved in those programs.  I do not believe that they will do a better job than our state has done, nor do I believe that they will solve the issues. 

We are told that the waiting list is 12-15 years long now.  That means that Isaac *might* receive some help in the year 2016…IF there are any monies available by then.  That sounds extremely unlikely, doesn't it???

The first step to a solution of this issue is to elect government officials who will do the right things for these children.  By "right things", I do NOT mean that they should provide in-home, around-the-clock nursing for all of these children.  Nor do I think they should modify entire houses, nor provide 100% of the funding for vehicles and modifications.  Each case should be handled with honesty and diligence, doing only what is necessary for the health and well-being of the child and the caregiver.

The second step is for parents to be honest about their needs.  It is not my RIGHT to receive help for Isaac.  I do not expect the government to care for my child.  I will do ALL I can, I will ask my family and my church for help, I will apply for grants and fill out requests for wish programs, and then I will be honest and let the state know what else I need.

The problem is that for years, parents were greedy and accepted more help that they actually needed, draining the state's financial coffers, because they felt that the government owed them these things.  It does not.  And if I take more than I actually need for Isaac, then some other child will not get all that they need.

The third step – and I think this is perhaps THE most important one – is to get RID of all of the paper-pushers.  There are SO many people, on the payroll of the state of Florida, who stand between Isaac and the political decision-makers.  These people are paid a ridiculous amount of money to fill out paperwork.  Some of them sit in an office all day, every day, and do nothing.  They receive full medical and dental benefits and paid vacations to handle papers or to type on a keyboard.

They might speak to me once a year.  Most years, I am the one who has to make that phone call.  These people need to be culled.  There are too many of them.  Keep the ones who are working their tails off, the ones who are already so busy they can never get it all done.  Keep the diligent, caring people who do the work, talk to the clients, make the work look easy.  They are the ones keeping the system working.  They need help, but they don't need it from the desk-jockeys who are just trying to hang on for their full retirement plan to go into effect.

The .5 step is to avoid adding an additional phalanx of federal government workers to these ranks.  More bureaucracy is not the answer to this problem.

I realize that society as a whole will not return to moral standards of right and wrong…ever.  That does not release me from the responsibility to do right!  I must vote my conscience, try to help elect leaders who are morally and fiscally responsible, and give honest answers to the state workers who ask what we need to make Isaac's life safe and as "normal" as possible.

Florida has got to get back on the right track of doing only what is necessary, and of using responsibly the monies available for these children.  We need strong leadership in this state, from the governor's office in Tallahassee, on down to the social workers in each county.

I would never want Isaac to live in a nursing home.  But I also would not want Washington D.C. in charge of my child's medical welfare.  More government is never the answer, and in this case, I believe it would be foolish and ultimately disastrous for the disabled children of the state of Florida.

Trying to Catch Up

We've had a quiet couple of weeks here at our house.  Ike's caregiver was on vacation one week, then she took some days off for the 4th of July. 

We've been getting lots of rain here, along with our mid-90* weather.  The rain does help the mercury to stand still and stop climbing for a little while each day.

I think the crepe myrtles must really love the rain.  They are all in bloom all over town.

LakeEvaPark

Our summer skies are really breath-taking here in Florida.  I know other places have beautiful skies too; but I am quite particular to ours.

Flsky

Flsky2

I know Kepler doesn't get outside as much as she would like.  I think she was trying to tell me she needed a little more vitamin D when she positioned her head to bask in this puddle of sunshine.

Kepsun

Doug is still planting seeds and harvesting a few veggies here and
there.  Nothing has produced like we expected it to, so for this next
round of seeds he will be using a special fertilizer for each bucket.  Yep,
we have a garbage can full of cow manure in our back yard. ;) 

I like to call this new addition to our garden "Bowl-o-Cilantro". (You can click to make the pictures bigger.)

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Bowlocilatro2
Bowlocilatro3

Now…I'm a little hesitant to tell you this, because I'm afraid I might get fussed at; but that bowl?  Yeah…it's Tupperwear.  And yeah, it does have drainage holes now.  Is that like really wrong?  I'm telling you, I just could not resist doing it.  How amazing does that cilantro look in that bowl???

The trick is to cut from a small quadrant of the full bowl when you need cilantro, then rotate and clip the next quadrant the next time you need it.  That way it will continue growing in the bowl all the time.  I am looking forward to some yummy dishes this summer!

We are still doing ok, financially.  We did have to dip into the money we were saving for Doug's surgery during last week, as he didn't tutor.  (The boys spent the week at church camp.)  We received a $300 check in the mail, just in time to pay our utilities bills this week.  We also received a HUGE check towards Doug's surgery.  He will be calling today to set up his surgery date.  He is a little nervous about that, as he's never had surgery before; but I know the Lord is going to see him through it with no complications.

By the way, we are still continuing to try to stay on our diet.  I say "trying" because we got waylaid a little bit by the 4th of July.  When you step out the door and smell barbecue grills cooking, it sets up a domino effect!  We did have burgers…and then cupcakes, and then we struggled all weekend.  However, on Monday, we got back on track and are doing well now.  According to my doctor's scales, I am still the same weight I was this past February.  Eh…  And Doug, of course, has lost in the neighborhood of 30 pounds already.  Yeah…I know.  I want to just poke him in the eye, too! 😉

I leave you with a close up of Poppet.  Doug was cleaning her cage this week and so I was spending a little one-on-one time with her.  Then she bit my ear.  And went right back into her cage!!!  But she looks really cute here.

Poppet

That's all for today!

Talk to you again soon,

Alesha

 

How to Share with your Friends

Well, I'm going to show you how to share PLANTS with your friends, anyway!  You really ought to know by now how to share other stuff with your friends. 😉

I think I'm going to be known as "The Mint Lady" soon.  I now have spearmint, sweet mint, chocolate mint and lavender mint growing in my kitchen.  We love the smells of each of them, and I've enjoyed sharing them with my family and friends.

Just in case you've ever wondered how to "root" a piece of leafy plant like mint or ivy, this is the way my Mama has done it for years.

You cut off a sprig of the plant you want to "clone".  You tuck it into a container of water.  Keep it filled.  Put it in a sunny place, if you'd like.  Eventually, you'll begin to see small root forming; and you will begin to see additional growth at the top of your plant.

Here is a bit of lavender mint that my friend passed on to me.  This was after it had been in the water about a week.

Mint2

Here it is about a week later:

Mint

And here it is this week:

Mint3

It is truly amazing to watch.

Some plant take longer than
others.  I had tiny sprigs of ivy that did nothing for months, then
suddenly began to root and grow like crazy.  I transplanted them to a
large pot and planted them in good potting soil, and now, it is a happy,
happy plant.

I plan to move this lavender mint to a pretty little pot very soon…when we have extra money for potting soil. 😉

By the way, I was able to pay all the bills through this end of this month today.  I also sold a set of books today.  Yay! 

Doug doesn't work the week of the 4th, so it will be interesting to see how God provides for the bills of next month!

Hoping you have a great weekend,

Alesha

Chicken, Corn and Canteloupe

We had a good weekend, even though I was stuck at home with back pain.  Doug and Ike both made it to church and enjoyed their day together.  We splurged on our diet, because it was Father's Day.  Doug wanted fried chicken, so that is what we had. 😉

I had been shopping for bedsheets, and I mentioned on FB how confusing that whole process could be.  I did try to glean as much advice as I could before doing some online shopping.  However, something even better came along.  My friend was out shopping, came across sheets on clearance, and snapped up a set for me (regularly priced at $170!!!) for under $50!  I told her she was hired as my new personal assistant for sure!

I ended up with Martha Stewart sheets.  They are Egyptian cotton, and a 500 threadcount.  So far we are loving them.  They remind me of sleeping at my grandma's house.  Her sheets were also so crisp and smelled so wonderful! :)  Good memories.

Today I posted some books and jewelry on online yard sale groups on FB.  We'll see what comes of that, if anything.  Tomorrow, we are going to meet a lady that listed a skirt and sweater set for $10 in my sizes.  I hope it all fits, but if it doesn't, it will be good motivation to not have many "splurge" days, won't it?

My dad blessed us with some produce on Saturday.  He and Mama halved a bushel of corn with us and gave us a canteloupe too.  It was honestly one of the best-tasting cantaloupes I have ever had in my life!  Sugar-sweet. 

I tried to recreate my Mexican rice and refried beans recipe yesterday, so that I could take pictures and share it with you.  It was an EPIC FAIL. :(  The rice wouldn't cook, the beans were still crunchy, everything kept sticking.  Ugh!   So disappointing!  BUT, I do intend to try it again.  I will not let it conquer me.

I guess that's all that's happened since I blogged last.  These are turning into weekly posts, rather than daily; but I suppose that's ok.  No publishing companies beating down the door yet, anyway! Tee hee hee.

Until the next time,

Alesha

A Profitable Week

Wednesday night, I came home from church, and my hubby had these yummy roasted potatoes ready.

Roastedpotatoes

They were so delicious!  There was, however, just one catch:  he included crushed red pepper flakes in his seasonings.  They were so hot I could barely eat them!!!

So, we are planning to do them again, minus the atomic seasonings.

We picked our first cucumbers today!  So exciting! 

Cukes

The long one is a Straight Eight and the short one is a pickling cucumber.  We also picked our first jalapeno pepper this week, and used it to make some delicious Mexican rice and refried beans.  Oh so yummy!!!

My gardenia is out-doing herself this year. 

Gardenia

This is her 5th blossom, I think, and she has 2 others as well.  She has never bloomed very much, so I am enjoying these gorgeous blooms so much.

Our tax return was finally approved and deposited.  It only took over 60 days!  Three times as long as they say it will take.  I'm thinking it was some glitch in the e-filing; but at least it was corrected eventually.

My sweet mother-in-law sent me a box of books this week. 

Books

Does she know my language of love, or what?!  The exciting thing is that I can share them with my friends, too.  So fun.

Our church is doing something special for Father's Day this year.  They put up several bulletin boards in the back of the church, and everybody is bringing in pictures of their dads to put up.  It's been so fun to see the really old pictures of our church members, and the way they resemble their dads (or not!).

So, of course, we had to get a picture of Isaac's Daddy for the display.  We shot this on Wednesday afternoon, and were able to get it printed off and posted in the auditorium.  I really love it!

Ikeanddaddy

Well, it's been a good week.  I was able to order some supplements I needed today, thanks to that tax return.  I will also be able to buy some new bedsheets, which we are in desperate need of.  I'll let you know what kind of deal I find on those!

Praying you have a profitable weekend (by spending time in the Lord's House!),

Alesha